Cheating, cheating, cheating, where do I start with this complex topic? Almost every woman on this earth has probably been cheated on whether she knows it or not. Some women seem to think that it’s just in a man’s DNA to act on it. Some even go so far as to say that ALL men cheat, which I refuse to believe. I’ve heard many conversations with women truly considering this theory, thus making me question the concept of cheating. Does every male species do it? Is it the woman’s fault? Is the reasoning behind cheating correlate with one’s culture? …


Recently, I spent the weekend with my cousin in the house just like 80% of the world currently quarantining indoors until life goes back to normal. We decided to watch the movie ‘Soul’ on Disney+ and boy am I glad we did. Pixar’s Soul follows the life of a middle school band teacher who dreams of becoming a world renowned Jazz Musician. He believes it’s his life’s purpose and rejects anyone who says otherwise.

He finally gets a shot at performing with one of the greatest town musicians. Moments later, he loses his life in an accident and it lands…


For as long as I remember, I’ve struggled with my self-image. In a world where people constantly throw the word “self-love” around all day long, I can honestly say that I’ve had a challenging time truly grasping it in my life.

I hated my weight since high school. I was always overweight and very insecure about it.

I always told myself “Once I get skinny, then I’ll be happy”. Boy, was I wrong.

This year in quarantine, I started working out at home and finding a way to incorporate exercise into my routine, for good this time. My friend gave…


It’s a loaded question but don’t worry, we’ve got answers from every single zodiac sign. (Whispers: He may still be thinking about you, sis)

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Good ol’ Breakups, we all go through them but none of us experience them the same way especially when it comes to gender. According to society, if you’re a woman, you’ll probably have a hard time getting over it. A man? Oh please, he’s living his best life and tends to move on without the tears, the infamous quotes on social media, the therapy sessions or without the drastic hair change. We also tend to have…


I consider myself the Queen of questions. To me, everyone has a story yet so many stories go untold. I find joy in getting to know most people beyond surface-level interactions and meaningless small talk.

Every week, I try to find an intense question to ask myself and those around me. It keeps my mind flowing and it allows me to have intimate moments with myself. This weeks question was centered around love and where we learned it from.

One of my favorite quotes regarding love is by Ms. Iyanla Vanzant. She says:

“You don’t get to tell people how…


It’s a real thing, trust me.

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One of my most memorable moments in college was in my Interpersonal Communications class. My professor just introduced the class to the term ‘Grave Dressing’ and 19 year old me had no idea what that meant.

She described it as something that we all must do when someone walks out of our life to move on. This could be an ex-lover, an abuser, a family member, or an old friend. She told the class that Grave Dressing is the final stage of the dissolution of any relationship. In other words, the stage where we…


Growing up, I never really fit in anywhere. I was always too “white” for the black kids and too “black” for the white ones. I’m a black woman but some may refer to me as a water-downed black girl. If you turn on the TV, you’ll get a twisted view or stereotype shall I say about who they think we are. Loud, “Ghetto”, undesirable, strong, and single are just a few of the stereotypes that they place on us. …


I used to be the most negative person I’ve ever known. I was always blaming other people for my downfalls and refusing to let go of the past. They say attitude is everything and mine sucked for a very long time until I realized that life isn’t always perfect. It actually never is. Happiness came to me gradually as I learned a few major keys in life.

Throughout every mistake and bad thing that happened to me, I started to rise up by changing the way I saw things. These are some life tips, tricks and realizations that have helped…


Growing up, I was always the kid who was obsessed with movies. All the kids I grew up around loved being outside but, not me. 90% of the time I was in the house with my mom watching lifetime movies or re-watching classics films that were older than me.

Movies would help me get lost for hours at a time.

I guess you can say, I fell in love with an alternate reality and I had a deep appreciation for movies because they always brought happy endings. …


All of my life, I’ve been very curious about love and relationships, about how they work and what makes them strong etc. But as I get older, I start to wonder if dating and relationship structure differs by race or if I’ll find true love as a black woman. I’ve felt some rejection and wounds as far as dating is concerned, but sadly I face the most hurt from men of my own race.

I grew up being raised by two single moms. My sister and mother. I didn’t really see them suffer in love because they were so busy…

Kia Topps

Just writing what's in my notes and in my heart.

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